(Heather’s Perspective)
I couldn’t resist stepping on the scale this morning. Tomorrow, I will have been on this pre-op liquid diet for 7 days… and I was curious to see how much I had lost. I was delighted to have my scale tell me that I’ve lost 4.6 kilograms (10 pounds)! I stepped off the scale… then stepped back on, just to make sure!
As I’ve mentioned before when I explained my eating disorder in in detail (here), I’m perfectly capable of losing weight on my own. I’m not struck down with some mysterious disease that keeps me fat even though I nibble modestly on lettuce leaves all day long.
Nope. I’m fat for one reason: I eat too much.
I eat too much, because I am addicted to food.
I am addicted to food because…. well… unfortunately, and in spite of many attempts, I’ve yet to find any rhyme or reason as to ‘why’ I am addicted to food or ‘how’ I might become un-addicted.
I don’t blame hormones, my busted up metabolism, a cryptic fat-making disease or my ‘propensity to store’.
There’s a person I know who insists that she’s utterly blameless for her obesity. She can’t understand why she’s fat when, she says, she eats exactly the same as her thin friends (personally, I think she’s in denial. I know what she eats, and it’s certainly not the same as her thin friends).
So, I am not that person.
I don’t feel like I have been unfairly wronged and I never, ever say: “It’s not fair! My sister got the thin-gene… I got the fat-gene! We both eat the same amount of food – but Soo is thin and I am fat… it’s not fair!”.
Nope. Soo is a normal-weight person because she manages to control what goes in her mouth (although that control is often implemented in unhealthy, unloving ways). I am a fat person because I don’t (can’t) control what goes in my mouth. I am utterly addicted to food.
Now… somebody may point out (and rightly so)… that if I didn’t have any self-control with regard to food…. then why have I managed a week of consuming only fruit juices and smooth soups? If I was so out-of-control around food… then surely this wouldn’t be possible?
OK… let me fill you in. And perhaps this blog can be helpful about making the disorder part of the eating disorder more understandable to some.
Easy answer? It just doesn’t work like that.
You’ll notice a sentence, a few lines above this one, that I’ve made bold. Perhaps a better way to write that sentence would be like this: “I am a fat person because I don’t (can’t?) control what goes into my mouth… indefinitely”.
Currently, I have the willpower of an Everest Mountaineer. Seriously! I know that I need to stick to this pre-op liquids-only diet for only 17 days (6 already gone!). And it’s been a year since I’ve made the decision to have a lap-band… (and only now that I’m able to afford it). A year of dreaming and hoping… and now, finally, the op is scheduled for the 6th December. The motivation-levels are just way too high for me to even consider ‘cheating’. I’m lowering my surgery risks by sticking to this very dull diet… and, of course, I’m also losing weight.
Also – I consider these my Final-Diet-Days… and the last time I will be feeling constantly hungry and deprived (as one does on a liquid diet)…. (as one does on most diets, mind you). The big, big ‘plus’ of the lap-band, is that it makes you feel very full – even after a really small portion of food. Feeling like I’ve consumed a 3 course meal after eating only a side-plate of food? Music to my ears!!!
If you had to take away the ‘motivation’ of me having surgery in just a few days…. the motivation of knowing that this is my last-ever constantly-feeling-hungry-and-deprived-diet-experience… if it was just another try-to-get-thin attempt…. I would probably have lasted on this liquid for… maybe… 3 days at a push?
I certainly would not have been able to shift all of excess weight by remaining on this diet for many months (in fact, I wonder if anybody would be able to do that – much less a food addict!) And even if, by some miracle, I managed to stick to a strict diet (like this one) for the 12 (at least) months it would take me to lose the weight…. then what? What would happen once the diet was ‘over’? Well, I can already tell you (because it’s the same thing that happens every single time I have lost weight)… I slip right back into the usual patterns of eating too much…. and back-to-fat I get!
That’s the problem with this damn disorder (although, perhaps I should call it a disease!)… you obsess… obsess… obsess about food… food…. food… for your entire life. Now – if weight-loss-surgery (WLS) can give me some reprise from this life-long struggle… then dang! – I’m going for it!!!
4.6 kg’s down… another 59.4 to go!
Onwards and upwards! (or downwards… depending on the way you view it!)
Tags: lapband, WLS